Dying Writer Creates Husband's Dating Profile From Her Deathbed
- Author: Salvatore Jensen Mar 04, 2017,
Mar 04, 2017, 22:44
The diagnosis aligned with her third child leaving for college ― a moment that should have marked the next chapter of life for her and her husband, Jason, but instead indicated that the final chapter was imminent.
Amy Krouse Rosenthal hopes the "right person" will find her husband Jason.
Rosenthal said the objective of her essay was to create a "general profile" for her husband, including all the things she loves about him - even though she, herself, has never dabbled in online dating.
She closes the column with blank space meant to give a new start to her husband and a new partner, ending it simply "With all my love, Amy".
It's hard to read the heart-wrenching story and not weep for Rosenthal, who says she hasn't been able to eat solid food in five weeks and that she "probably only has a few days left being a person on this planet", and difficult to contemplate facing such a reality as a couple. "I did it in one day".
"He is an easy man to fall in love with".
While many of us might be guilty of spending endless periods of time trying to ideal our dating profiles, none will ever hold a candle to the one written by author Amy Krouse Rosenthal - only, she wasn't even writing it for herself. He loves listening to music, and showed up at their first pregnancy ultrasound with flowers. She says it took him about a year to know the same thing, and now they've been together for two and half decades.
Jason is a lawyer, an excellent cook who procures olives and cheese before making the evening meal, and an amateur artist who wakes up early every Sunday morning to surprise his wife by "making some kind of oddball smiley face out of items near the coffeepot: a spoon, a mug, a banana". She talks of all the things she'll never do and places she'll never go, citing the irony that "cancer and cancel look so similar".
"Jason has one too, but with more letters: 'AKR'". So why I am doing this? I want more time with my children.
"In September, Paulette [the reader] drove down to meet me at a Chicago tattoo parlour", she writes in her essay. I want more time sipping martinis at the Green Mill Jazz Club on Thursday nights.
I am wrapping this up on Valentine's Day, and the most genuine, non-vase-oriented gift I can hope for is that the right person reads this, finds Jason, and another love story begins. But that is not going to happen.
Did you or do you imagine the day when your nest empties and you can start fulfilling long-held dreams? Right away, Amy knew he was the man she wanted to marry.